Boy Space Friends
Boy Space Friends
I posted at some point an article about different types of personalities – which were more or less related to each other in a way – and now I was thinking about different types of boy friends. With a space between words, which does NOT represent a so-called friend-zone. My list has nothing to do with romance which is felt by only one of the two – it’s merely a description about different types of guys that are amongst male friends, and of course there are many other types out there waiting to be discovered, plus some guys can be classified in more than one group.
The guy to whom you can tell mostly everything. Oh, my toast burned. Look, that guy doesn’t spell properly. Check out this picture, LOL! I’m hungry. I’m sleepy. All this kind of stuff, just random thoughts that you feel you want to share, and you can just chat with him whether he’s replying or not, and disregarding his opinion – if he has one.
The guy to whom you can talk about mostly everything. From what’s love? to Why is the earth round? to How can I not be so skinny but still look good? to I’m lonely. This guy does reply and his opinions do really matter. The discussions matter, too, even if perhaps he doesn’t agree with everything you say. An alternative view is never a bad thing.
The guy you still hope you’ll know better. This means from what music or movies he likes, to the ideas hidden inside his mind, and his perspective of the whole life purpose. The kind of guy you think you understand in a minute, but in another you’re completely lost on a separate path.
The guy you can hug without feeling awkward in any way. He’s just there for you if you feel low, blue, or you just crave for a hug, without any further questions.
The guy you can’t actually hug unless it’s a special occasion, but you find yourself wondering from time to time how hugging him may feel like – I have a more detailed post about hugs here.
The guy with whom you share some hobbies / anything at all, whether it’s reading, drinking bottled water, the same university modules, or perhaps something deeper. It doesn’t actually matter as long as you have something in common.
The guy with whom you can share moments of comfortable silence. Just doing nothing, saying nothing, but without feeling awkward at all.
The guy with whom you can’t spend more than half a minute in silence, and you always have to find something to say so that awkwardness wouldn’t cover you both.
The guy who can make you laugh, or at least smile.
The guy to whom you can talk about your problems with other boys – ‘cuz a guy’s opinion may be different.
The guy who suggests you good music, or what he thinks good music is.
The guy who suggests you good… suggestions (that are actually good enough to follow).
The guy you can watch movies with.
The ex boyfriend – this type is represented by a word which was broken together with the break up, and the secret here is to make sure the space between the two words is not transformed into a friend-zone. Once that’s settled, everything else is clear.
The normal friend, whom you can’t call a best friend, but he does his job. You can rely on him mostly all of the time, and he’s fine with everything, I guess.
All all the other types and sub-types of male friends that I’ll perhaps discover in time, or perhaps not.
But what do all these guys have in common, except from being friends?… Simple. When their girlfriends slash crushes slash other special girl space friends are around, I’m plan B. And I don’t fancy being plan B to anyone – but of course, I’m not going to argue about this. It’s not jealousy, it’s just a fact. I respect their top priorities, but I’m not sure I’ll ever be one for them. Apart from this, hooray for boy friends!